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I’ve lost count of the number of times in the 5ish years since I started Paper Arrow Press and was plunged into the wonderful world of weddings that I’ve seen this venue or that dress and thought ‘if I were getting married again…’. These days anything goes when you get married. There are so many brilliant businesses offering alternative options for your wedding. Don’t believe me? Just look at the The Wedding Collective DIRECTORY, it is overflowing with creativity and originality.
On the flip side I also find myself thinking I’ve had a lucky escape from the pressure to plan the alternative wedding of my dreams – I’m not sure it would have gone down all that well with my tribe of fairly traditional relatives. And maybe I’m not really brave enough to wear an emerald green wedding dress anyway, planning the simple wedding we had was stressful enough…
So, if you want to dodge the meringue but are getting the fear about telling your mum… I’ve had a think about some sneaky, non-scary ways to let your inner wedding rebel rip without falling out with your great auntie Pam.
10 non-scary ways to rebel on your wedding day:
- Rewrite traditions – One of the trickier things about a wedding is that it can all feel a little – ummm – not very feminist, so take a long hard look at your vows, maybe don’t get ‘given away’ and/or get the women to give speeches too.
- Rebel playlist – Music is the medium for all the best rebels to express themselves – so if a full evening of Father John Misty is your dream wedding soundtrack, knock yourself out, then break up the night with a few sets that will get different guests up on the dance floor for a few songs.
- Not that bothered about champagne? Serve gin instead! Obviously…
- Stay flexible – Adding accessories which you can swap in or take off through the day (hello leather jacket!) is a great non-scary way to rebel. If you’re not feeling brave just take it off, (but who’s not going to feel brave in a wedding dress and biker jacket ensemble?!)
- Location location – I think this is a tricky one. I am crazy for those urban warehouse spaces with their blank canvas potential but it can be hard to imagine your family members congregated in one. Consider opting for a multi-location wedding with the dream warehouse for your reception preceded by a more traditional ceremony or search for a blank canvas in a more low key venue and add your own unusual touches.
PRO TIP: Super wedding stylist Toria at Arrow and Twine suggests doing away with the traditional table plan on an easel in favour of a hanging installation (see her website for more ideas)
- Keep a sense of humour – Tiny touches of comedy can go along way to take the edge of the old fashioned vibes of a wedding. Get a bit cheeky with your table names. See the list I wrote here) for inspiration 😉
- Relaxed refreshments – Serve food on large sharing platters for your guests to pass around if a three course meal is just too old fashioned for you!
- Colour flash – Gone are the days of the pastel pink wedding, any colour goes. If the 13 year old disco queen in you is too nervous to go all out with an orange sequin gown – do it with tiny details; bold coloured shoes and dark nails, or HUGE jewellery. Because why the F not? And if your the type of guy who wants to be himself on his big day and his ‘self’ usually jazzes right up or doesn’t fancy feeling like an inverted commas Groom – then go wild! Colour, pattern, suits, ties, shoes .. Hey, it’s your day too right? (Check out our GROOM STYLE post for some inspo)
PRO TIP: Lovely Rosie of Brolly Bucket suggests taking it a step further hiring bright brollies that colour clash with your shoes or socks!
- Don’t take the veil – If wearing a piece of net on your head is not for you there are so many other options and if you don’t want to put anything on your head, well…don’t! 😉
- Ch ch changes – If you know your family is desperate to see you float down the aisle in a traditional dress choose a second one and change for the evening. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just one you want to party in!
GO ON. REBEL (even a wee bit)
THANKS RACHEL!! top tips for some subtle rebellion. we love it!
About the AUTHOR:
Paper Arrow Press design modern, personalised and bespoke wedding invitations and stationery for style-conscious couples. From our Edinburgh studio, we work closely with couples to create wedding stationery as unique and stylish as they are. We design everything from invitations to on-the-day stationery and thank you cards, specialising in bold typography and striking designs that grooms as well as brides love.